Nothing Left.
Posted at 02:58 PM

I try to get involved now.  I try to participate in things, volunteer for events.  I just don't know when I'll stop feeling like a victim.  When the hurt will subside.  I tell myself I'm getting better every day.  Just one step at a time.  But am I really getting better?  This has been one curve ball life's thrown me that caught me completely off guard.

Old Dogs Can Learn New Tricks
Posted at 12:34 PM

I recently heard the rat bastard was WORKING OUT now. It cracked me up on the inside knowing that no amount of exercise is going to change how f-ed up a person is on the inside. I found this article on emotional manipulation and how to stop it. I wish I had known about the site sooner. All the signs were written there-verbatim-I just didn't know it until it was too late:

"Emotional Manipulators seldom fight their own fights or do their own dirty work. The crazy thing is that when you do it for them (which they will never ask directly for), they may just turn around and say they certainly didn’t want or expect you to do anything! "

"No matter what your situation is the emotional manipulator has probably been there or is there now - but only ten times worse. If you call them on this behavior they will likely become deeply wounded or very petulant and call you selfish - or claim that it is you who are always in the spotlight."

"They can make you feel guilty for speaking up or not speaking up, for being emotional or not being emotional enough, for giving and caring, or for not giving and caring enough. Any thing is fair game and open to guilt with an emotional manipulator. Emotional manipulators seldom express their needs or desires openly - they get what they want through emotional manipulation."

From

http://www.cassiopaea.com/cassiopaea/emotional_manipulation.htm